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Fertility does matter: finding support

June 14, 2016 Leave a Comment

The common term is “infertility,” a condition defined by a year of actively trying to conceive without success.

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A single label cannot capture the varieties of experience that could occur in that one year.  A couple may have conception followed by miscarriage.  They may be going through “work-ups” or “interventions” such as IUI (intrauterine insemination), or egg harvesting or embryo transfer or adoption planning or maybe none (or all) of the above.

The fertility journey isn’t a straight line for a lot of families.  And the term “infertility” is often experienced by women as a painful, pejorative label.

When a woman embarks on a fertility journey that is not a straight line, she may be struck by the shocking lack of information in the general public about fertility in general.  She may be surprised that so few people know how to relate to a less-than-simple pathway to parenthood.   She and her spouse may be shocked at their own reactions to an unanticipated sequence of events.  Many people want to keep their fertility status private, not wanting to become a topic of discussion, and sometimes even feeling shame or some associated emotion along with the longing and sadness and anger.

We need to open up space around fertility the way that we’ve started opening up space around postpartum issues.   Women’s reproductive well-being is one of those topics about which everybody seems to have an opinion but few have facts or helpful information.  Fertility support groups can help.  When  women talk with each other openly about the complexity of fertility, everybody can benefit.  Women whose path is long or arduous can feel supported.  Women who have had losses can acknowledge them with others who understand.  Women (and men) can find a forum where they can say some of the things that feel most shameful, such as expressing anger about others who get pregnant easily or who are pregnant without desiring it.  They can acknowledge anger at the universe or at their families, or even with each other, in a space where everyone knows that anger is just anger, and it isn’t an indicator that you are a bad person or that you wish others harm.

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Finding a place to talk can be easy or it can be hard.  The Canadian fertility support organization, fertility matters, has information about local support groups.   Online support can be found via Resolve, a US group that helps people with pregnancy loss and fertility issues.  They even have a group for people who have decided to stop their fertility journey and choose childlessness.   That can be a big help: as hard as it can be to talk about your fertility journey, it can also be hard to talk about the decision to get off that road.  Supportive folks who have walked that way can help.

Wherever you are on your fertility journey, I send my regards.   The everyday courage of the average family often goes unnoticed.  For women and for men who are on the twisty, bumpy, difficult road of fertility matters, I acknowledge your courage and I honour the process that keeps you true to yourselves as you find your way.

Peace,

Leslie

 

 

Counseling or psychotherapy?

May 16, 2012 Leave a Comment

What’s the difference between counseling and therapy?  Often these two terms are used interchangeably.  However, I like to make a distinction between them.  Counseling is mostly about solving problems in the here-and-now, talking about concerns and getting another perspective on them.   If your issues are really situational and of brief duration, counseling might be best for you.  Psychotherapy, in contrast, helps you to look at your patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving.  It helps you to identify and then to develop ways to change the defenses that you may have had in place for a very long time.  If you have been chronically anxious, unhappy, or in trouble, or if you have a history of depression or anxiety, or you have a history of stress, trauma, or loss, then psychotherapy may be appropriate for you.

What I do in my practice…..

Beside the fact that I am trained as a bioenergetic therapist, I am also a licensed psychologist.  There are some problems in everyday life that I would especially like to help you with.

I am particularly interested in working with concerns around reproduction, especially from a woman’s point of view.    That would include fertility concerns, pregnancy loss, postpartum stress, adoption, and infertility treatment, just to start.

I also work with people who have traumatic histories.  Many reproductive issues are, in fact, traumatic, but other traumatic events can generate problems for people.

A third area of my practice is working with children ages six and under with a parent, who have experienced trauma or attachment disruption.  This model is called Child-Parent Psychotherapy, and is largely a home-based model of support, education, and intervention to support attachment between the parent and child and help both to resolve trauma.

Sometimes people just want to get more out of life.   Maybe this is you.  Everything in your life looks like it is fine but deep inside, you feel like you are missing something, or that the way things look is NOT the way that things are for you.  Therapy, especially body-mind therapy, can help with that.

Is there something I can help you with?  Some issue you want to talk about, or some concern that keeps coming up in your life?

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