BirthStories, a program to witness and integrate birth experiences
Giving birth is a life-changing event. We often have expectations and hopes for our birth, and may find that the reality doesn’t necessarily match what we thought would happen. Sometimes birth is traumatic, but more often it is just different than we had expected or hoped.
My first birth had pieces missing: I was asleep for the birth, I couldn’t remember what happened just after the baby was born, my baby was taken to the nursery before I got to see him. I spent years telling myself that I was upset for no reason because I had a healthy baby and it didn’t matter how he was born. I found myself telling my birth story to others and to myself, trying to make it all make sense. Before I got pregnant again, I needed to develop clarity around what had happened to me and my baby during his birth.”
When you have some uncomfortable feelings about your birth experience, they can linger. It may not seem like a big thing. Maybe you just don’t understand why a particular procedure was called for. Or perhaps you cannot remember something that seems important to you now.
We know that moms who feel clear and coherent in their birth narratives often feel clear and positive in other areas as well. There is nothing wrong with you if your birth story feels unclear; however, opening space to let that story finds it place to settle into your life may be helpful.
When you find that you need to tell your story over and over, but even re-telling doesn’t help you to feel like it is ready to be put to rest, you might be interested in our BirthStories program. BirthStories is a two-hour weekend workshop where mothers come together to relax, reflect, and revisit the experience of birth. It doesn’t matter if your birth was two months or twenty years ago, if there is some unresolved part of it, BirthStories can help you to access it and process it.