Having a baby is the most wonderful thing in the world…. until it isn’t.
Starting a family can seem like the most natural thing in the world, until it doesn’t work the way you expect. When pregnancy doesn’t happen, or when you have a miscarriage, or when your family structure requires some sort of intervention to have children (LGBT people, for example), or even if you are not sure about the whole family-making question, therapy can help
Navigating the uncharted world of infertility can be daunting. So many feelings come up, and so many people in your life cannot understand what you are experiencing, that you can feel totally alone in your struggle. While the world of reproductive technology is developing new ways to help people have families, the path can be full of boulders, obstacles, and difficulty.
Women who are trying to get pregnant may experience every menstrual period as a little death; another set of hopes dashed, another painful reminder. When your path includes pregnancy losses, there is another layer of feelings. Grief and anger and shame and guilt are not uncommon. They are painful emotions, and it can sometimes be hard to find support around you. People may say things to be helpful that just don’t help. Other people may seem to have babies casually and that can make you rageful. These emotions can be scary and you wonder if you’ll ever be yourself again.
Infertility is temporary. It may take a long time to resolve, but it is temporary. In the meantime, it can help to have someone to talk to about all of this. It can help to have a place to really express how you feel and what you think about what your experience is.
Individual therapy sessions are available for people dealing with fertility issues, pregnancy loss, the decision to be childless by choice or by circumstance, IVF, egg donor and surrogacy plans, and adoption. Please call to see if my services can be helpful to you.
Prenatal and postpartum (perinatal) issues
After having a baby, a woman can be at risk for depression or anxiety. Symptoms of postpartum depression occur in over 30% of New Brunswick mothers, similar to the rest of North America. Sometimes these symptoms get confused with the big changes that come with a new baby: sleepless nights, constant baby care, wondering if you are “doing it right,” all of that. But if your baby is two weeks old and you are still not feeling anything like yourself, you may be struggling with a postpartum disorder.
During pregnancy, many women develop depression that is not recognized. In part this is because pregnancy itself puts demands on the body. But if you are having persistent low mood, sleep and appetite disruptions, disturbing thoughts that persist, excessive fatigue and low motivation, you can tell your doctor.
Postpartum and pregnancy depression and anxiety are TREATABLE. While medication is available, many women are concerned about the use of medications while pregnant or breastfeeding. Psychotherapy or counseling can be very helpful in treating pregnancy and postpartum depression and anxiety. Many women get the best results with a combination of medication and therapy. I will work with your doctor to help you get the treatment that you want and that will best meet your needs.
Therapy for postpartum is all about SUPPORT. You want to feel better, and you need someone to help you do this. Imagine finding out that your scary thoughts are symptoms of this illness, and that you are not going crazy. Imagine learning some different ways to cope with how you are feeling and what you are thinking. Many women have had many of these same experiences, and have recovered and are doing well.